Living in Bangkok, I can literally not walk 100 feet without meeting a very attractive young Thai girl. Bangkok girls dress, move and act with a certain grace and sensuality that just makes a man go wild. The young Isaan girl working on minimum salary in 7-11 to the Thai-Chinese princesse strolling around Emporium or the attractive professional Bangkok girl in office uniform in Silom, everywhere you turn there’s another beautiful girl.
Meeting girls in Bangkok is quite easy once you know where to look. There’s girls everywhere in Bangkok, so why limit yourself to the bars? Thai girls are very polite and will NEVER shoot you down for approaching and trying to make small talk. This of course only applies if you are polite and well dressed. I need to stress this, I see too many guys behaving as if they were in a bar talking to bar girl. Can you imagine how embarrassing it must be to talked to that way for a nice Thai girl?
As long as you are polite and pleasent, you will be amazed at how easy it is to meet Bangkok girls. Strike up an innocent conversation and see where it takes you. If she asks questions about you, laughs and tosses her hair, then go ahead and ask for her phone number. It’s that easy, just keep it playful and polite all the way.
Another great way to meet Bangkok girls is using the internet. There’s a bunch of Thai dating sites, some reviewed here. Dating sites are great because they allow many ‘shy’ Thai women to meet Western guys. Many Thai women are actually quite conservative and never go out unless with a large group of friends. That means they rarely get a chance to meet foreign guys even if they are curious and would like to. On the internet, these women can chat and arrange meet ups from the safety of their own home. This is a great way to meet nice Bangkok girls. I’ve had many successful dates with girls I met online.
I suggest making all first dates in Bangkok as informal as possible. Something like coffee at Starbucks will do fine. Then if I feel like the date is going well, I will suggest doing something else rigth away. It can be anything really, going shopping and having her help pick out stuff for you is great, then you can round it up with dinner or drinks in the evening.]]>
Dating in Thailand can be the same if you do not have an effective approach. You can be like every other person out there and get minimal to no results, or you can read this section and find the bulletproof system to meeting Thai girls online.
Personally, I love the idea of meeting girls online. This gives you an entirely different avenue to meeting someone new without leaving your house. Less is more. Do less and get more is a great philosophy to live you dating life by.
Before you enter the online dating world, you must remember one thing:
Online dating is a numbers game!
Meaning, even with the greatest profile, the most handsome photo, and an effective first email, you will still only get a response from a small percentage of the women you contact.
A real example of this:
When I first started online dating in Thailand, I joined two main websites. One was free (DateInAsia – Didn’t like it); the other was a paid one (ThaiLoveLinks – THE dating site in Thailand, sign up now!).
After a couple of weeks of trial and error, I had a great profile with a few great opening emails.
A week later, I had five dates that week.
I would usually do a daytime meet up at Starbucks for the first date. This is a great choice because with online dating, there are quite a few risks involved (explained below).
A daytime date is best because if you do not like her or if she has an unexpected surprise, you can leave in a respectful manner after 20 minutes.
Anyway, during all this dating I would out of curiosity ask, “how many men do you have contact you a week?” I would get the response of them not knowing, but it was a lot. Two weeks down the road, one of the girls ended up as my next girlfriend. I would ask
her the same question, and she said about a thousand men a week. I thought she was joking, a thousand new men contacting a girl in a week. That number was hard to wrap my mind around.
She opened up her laptop and logged into her second email account (created for online dating), low and behold, she was getting over 200 new emails a day. She was having over 1,400 new men contact her every week. One reason I love online dating is the variety of girls you can meet. Online you will find females ranging from bar girls to very successful women. By reading their profile, you
can get a good idea how to classify the girl into one of the three categories:
1- Looking for a new customers
2- Looking for a boyfriend
3- Looking for a husband
Look at the age group of their preferred mate. If she is 22 years old and looking for a man between the ages of 40 – 60, you will be able to tell which of the three she is. Did she actually take the time to write her profile and add real photos of her? You might
have a number two on your hands.
Does she have a photo wearing a bikini or sexy underwear? Good chance she is a number one.
When you read our proven techniques for online dating, you will find that these questions do not matter until you have already received a response. By falling in love with her photo and profile before a response is a good way to set up yourself for disappointment.
Seven Proven Online Dating Tips:
1- As mentioned many times already, online dating is a numbers game. Do not get hung up on one girl’s profile. Nearly 100 new women sign up every week for these websites, use this to your advantage.
2- If it’s a paid website, start with the girls who have paid their monthly membership. The girls who have paid are more serious in their search for a man.
3- Next, start with the newest members. These are the girls which just signed up and have not been bombarded for the last few week or months from men already. Start with the fresh meat.
4- Do not waste your time sending an indicator of interest. Messages are more effective.
5- Create a template and mass mail it. You can go with two styles. A short message to the point or something more detailed which refers to her profile. Use the second type if the girl is super cute who took time to write her profile.
6- Use your best photos, but have your profile show that you are a “fun” and “good” person. Online dating can be scary for some girls, show that you are a good man.
7- Get her on MSN or Skype ASAP. Once you have some contact with them, you want to start talking with them off the dating website. This will keep their attention on you. As you can see by our proven templates, you can even ask or offer your MSN user name in
the first message.
ThaiLoveLinks is part of the Cupid dating network which also includes sites such as FilipinaHearts and AsianEuro. The Cupid dating sites are all easy to use and has a lot of useful features. ThaiLoveLinks has a free basic membership that allows you to:
ThaiLoveLinks let’s you browse Thai girls profiles based on:
ThaiLoveLinks has members from all over Thailand. There are members from Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Isaan and from the South, basically from all over Thailand. This sets ThaiLoveLinks apart from other free Thai dating sites such as DateInAsia and ThaiLandFriends.
A very nice feature to have is the video profile option. Many of the girls on ThaiLoveLinks have video profiles and it’s a great way to get to know someone a little better before sending an email.
Members in ThaiLoveLinks can communicate trough a number of ways. You can send a ‘show interest’ to a girl you like to talkt too or send an email and even chat in the system built in chat clients.
On this site the girls go after the boys! Within minutes after signing up with a premium membership, you’re literally going to be flooded with emails from Thai women and requests for chat. It’s not uncommon to have to disable the chat client!
ThaiLoveLinks free membership has limited options. You can look around, but you can’t use most of the communication features, you can’t read emails and you can’t send emails. You can’t chat either. It’s recommended to upgrade to one of the paid memberships starting at around $20 monthly. This will also rank your profile better and allow more Thai girls to see it.
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Online dating is fast becoming the preferred way for foreign men and Thai women to meet. If you are interested in meeting Thai women, you should go for them. The best way is to set up an account on a Thai dating site such as ThaiLoveLinks or ThaiLoveLines, fill out your profile without any typical cliches or nonsense and then wait for Thai women to find your profile. They WILL come along and that is when you should contact them.
Pretty women are popular everywhere and that’s true online for Thai girls as well. Women who have attractive pictures get tons of emails from guys every day. Chances are one of these guys look better than you, so you have to be a little creative. Being a little laid back, a little more passive, may actually work with these girls, it worked for me. Keeps her wondering why I don’t pursue her as much as the others. Anyway, do what comes natural to you. You have to be lucky to get your email opened and you have to be different.
What’s funny about online dating profiles is of course that a lot of them are full of hot air and some are complete garbage. That’s true for meeting Thai women online as well. Many times the girls will lie about their age, weight and income among other things.
Ok, if you are starting in the Thai online dating world, here are a few tips:
1) You will want a free email account similar to the name of your dating profile. Once you have had contact with a Thai girl, you can go the next step and continue on online chat. Never reveal too much online, you never know if your neighbor decided to pose as a Thai girl for laughs! A separate email account also keeps your regular email free of all the messages and notifications you will get from a site like ThaiLoveLinks (and you will get many with a decent profile).
2) If you plan on chatting online, do yourself a favor and buy a decent webcam. This will help you present yourself better. Remember, you are trying to date someone who may be thousands of miles away and she needs to know something about you. People do judge on image and particularly online when that is often all there is. If you have a webcam, more women will also be willing to use theirs and that is obviously good for you as well. But remember that webcams show what you are doing, so if you are chatting with many women, you will likely get busted! Thai girls know when you do this (because they in turn chat with more than one guy!).
3) Stay away from ‘crazies’. If a Thai girl has written something in her profile like: “I am crazy girl” or “I do crazy things”, discard her as a potential girlfriend or even date. As silly as it sounds, these girls may indeed be crazy and a lot of trouble and you could find someone a lot nicer. Go for normal Thai women when dating online.
4) If you are looking for a serious relationship and marriage, do not go lower in your search than 7-10 years younger than you. If you are an older guy, maybe 10-15 is ok, but not lower than that. Thai women younger than that are not going to be mature enough. I am often amazed at how emotionally immature some Thai girls are even into their 30’s and 40’s. While it’s fun and endearing to some extent, it can also make things turn sour. Girls who are in their 20’s do generally not want to find a husband online. They may write that they like an older man, but be careful! Younger Thai girls may be interested in a sugar daddy kind of relationship though which is very common in Thailand.
5) If you are looking for a girl of virtue, a traditional Thai girl, then maybe online dating is not going to cut it. Conservative girls don’t do internet dating anywhere. Or if she does, she may be scared off after a bad experience. But conservative Thai girls are hard to meet anywhere!
6) Thai women look great in photos and much younger to us than they really are. Some Thai girls care so much about their appearance online that they will use pictures taken in a studio. So, don’t get your hopes up too early even if your future girlfriend looks like a model online!
7) Be specific about what you want and what you are searching for. People are often more direct online than in real life and that’s the advantage of meeting Thai women online. If you’re only looking to find sex, don’t claim you’re looking for a relationship. Remember that she likely won’t know what you expect going into a relationship and you may not know what she wants.]]>
Many foreigners who come to Thailand are surprised at how many internet café’s there are. This is because it still isn’t common for Thai people to have internet at home, where a family of several generations may share a smaller apartment, so it can be hard to get privacy. No problem though, as internet café’s are everywhere and cheap. I almost always see Thai girls chatting with their boyfriends online, both Thai and foreign, when I go to one. It’s like the internet offers some protection that makes an otherwise shy, Thai girl open up.
If you are using an internet dating site such as ThaiLoveLinks or ThaiLoveLines to find your dream Thai girl, then here are a few excellent tips:
Niche dating sites have really taken off in the last few years. While the big generic dating sites like Plenty of Fish, Match.com and Cupid.com are still going stong, there has definitely been a surge in dating sites catering to a specific market. It makes perfect sense really. Many of us have specific preferences as to who we would like to date and be in a relationship with, so why not join a dating site which allows you to do just that?
As for asian dating sites, we generally have two different kind of sites: The ones that are mainly for interracial dating such as sites introducing Asian women (or men) with foreign men (or women). There are plenty of those such as ThaiLoveLinks and FilipinaCupid for example. The other kind, like these asian dating sites are for everyone and are more popular with Asians living in Europe and North America. There can be many reasons for joining such dating sites as an Asian man or woman. Shared culture, compatibility or not knowing many fellow countrymen in a foreign country. Dating sites such as AsianFriendFinder.com have quite a community feeling to them unlike more tradititional dating sites. Of course, these dating sites are not exclusive to Asians, you are of course welcome to join if you would like to meet an Asian man or woman. Feel free to visit www.datingsites.org for more information.
The two largest general Asian dating sites are AsianFriendFinder.com and AsianDating.com (previously AsianEuro.com). Both have thousands of members all over the world but naturally with most members in larger cities in Europe, the USA and Canada.]]>
That all changed when the internet became popular, in Thailand, as well as around the rest of the world. In Thailand, it began with chat clients such as ICQ and websites such as Bangkok Chat. These two quick became the place for curious Thai women to meet equally interested foreign men and many marriages originates from here.
The internet offers both Thai women and foreign men a safe, casual place to meet, chat and flirt without having to actually be there in person.
There are several such dating sites in Thailand today, but the biggest and most popular by far is ThaiLoveLinks (see the banner). This site has close to one million members and thousands of couples meet every year through the site. Give the free membership a try and sign up today!]]>
Most of those guys, that I have met, are happy and have a loving, caring relationship with their female companion, which they sometimes felt lacked in their home country. They were tired of being counted out in the dating game because of their age or they found that many Western women have a lot of issues regarding love, sex and relationships. Many didn’t want to live alone anymore, so they went over here with the purpose to find a Thai wife. Others just thought it would be exciting to live in Thailand for a while, but did not go looking specifically for a Thai girlfriend or wife.
The reasons why many men find Thailand an attractive place to live is of course the warm climate, the low cost of living, the food, the organized chaos of everyday life, the smiles and of course the beautiful Thai women. Add to that afffordable health care, safety and a good sized expat population and you have a winning combination.
There are many thousand foreign expats living in Thailand in Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Phuket, Koh Samui and even in Isaan and elsewhere. Most are in relationships with a Thai girl or play the game and ‘date’ several women at the time. Thailand is quite a tolerant country and does not have the same hangups over sexuality that Judeo-Christian cultures do.
I think Thai women are attractive to men for many reasons: The physical attraction is obvious, feminine, slender and petite bodies, long black hair and smooth, hairless skin. Thai women are renowned for their beauty and I tend to agree with those that say they are among the most beautiful in the world.
Thai women are also very family oriented and traditional in most ways. They value peace and serenity very high, which means you will rarely get into silly arguments over small things that really do not matter. Thai women, being very feminine, have no desire to compete with a man on his premises. They generally want a strong and assertive man that can make decisions, yet he should be humble, polite and kind. These kind of qualities are the same that women used to want in a man in the West before the feminist movement increased divorce rates tenfold.
For a guy looking to find a Thai wife, there are generally three ways to go about it:
2) Online Dating / Matchmaking Service
3) Bar Girls / Hostesses / Waitresses
Let’s look closer at each of the three methods of meeting Thai women.
By far the best way to meet Thai women is to get introduced trough friends and aquintances. This is the normal way that couples meet in Thailand. Thais are very social and group oriented and rarely do anything on their own if they can avoid it. That also means that they will invite whomever they know briefly to come join them for a snack, whisky or karaoke. Being introduced to a Thai lady makes it a lot easier to meet nice Thai women as they would not normally be the type that frequents bars and clubs. You also already have the social proof of being approved by the group, that’s a big plus. The only problem is that most foreigners in Thailand, who do not speak Thai, may find it hard to make Thai friends if they do not work or study. If that’s the case then it could be a good idea to sign up for language classes or even better offer to teach English at the local school or as an evening course. It’s worth making an effort to make some Thai friends where you can.
2) Online Dating / Matchmaking Service
The ‘Find a Thai Wife’ type of introduction services do not really exist anymore after the internet took off. There’s really no need for an introduction agency or similar, because the online dating scene in Thailand is thriving and every girl and their mother (literally!) has a profile on either ThaiLoveLinks or ThaiLoveLines. There are probably more than 1,000,000 girls signed up on these two combined. Add to this those who use Tagged, Facebook, Zorpia and Hi5 and you get a staggering number. Online dating can be a mixed bag. It’s definitely a very good way to meet nice Thai women, but as in real life, due dilligence needs to be taken. It’s easy to pretend on the internet, so take your time and don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Chat with several ladies you are interested in and see if you can get them on Skype or the phone sooner rather than later. Remember that the girls also receive many emails, so getting to that next personal level is important. If you’re in Thailand, then I recommend you try to set up a coffee meet as soon as possible. It’s really hard to tell if chemistry is there over the internet. If you’re living abroad then I suggest using a webcam and Skype to keep in touch. Try and arrange for you to meet the girls you’ve been talking to on your next trip.
3) Bar Girls / Hostesses / Waitresses
Or ‘hired guns’ as I like to call them. Basically Thai girls who get paid to talk with you and entertain you in some way. Much has been written on the subject of Thai bar girls, so I won’t write too much about this. I will say though that I don’t think relationships with bar girls are a good idea. I have met some guys who made it work and I did date a ‘promo girl’ (not quite bar girl) for a while, but I found the partying and drama a bit too much. Of course, I don’t think you should stay away from bar girls at all, but I don’t think a relationship should begin or be based on money. If you do decide to look for a Thai wife in the bars, then I suggest you pursue a girl that hasn’t worked in the scene for long. These girls usually come to Bangkok or elsewhere with the romantic dream of meeting their prince on a white horse, but get disillusioned fast. If you meet one of these girls, then by all means treat her right and with respect and you may actually have found a diamond in the rough.]]>
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There are in fact many reasons why a Thai girl would go for a foreigner. Let’s take a look at some reasons that I think are common. Most Thai ladies I have talked often mention money, fidelity, physical chemistry and worldliness. Some may be only interested in one of those or all of them, but it’s a good starting point in figuring out why Thai women end up dating white guys.
Some Thai girls place the most importance on the financial stability or even wealth that a foreigner brings with him. These girls are mostly interested in improving their material posseisions and financial security. She may be a go-go dancer from a poor village in Isaan and wants money to send to her parents or she may be middle-class university student who wants a rich sugar daddy to sponsor her parties, clothes and cellphone upgrades. She is looking for an older, wealthy (or at least generous) guy who understands that being with a young attractive girl as an older man isn’t going to be free. She is easy to spot if she is working in a bar or go-go, but she can also be found on social networks and dating sites and she may have many foreing ‘friends’ already. If you are fine with this type of relationship then a the best way to win her over is a dinner at a fancy restaurant or VIP seats at an event and then a quick (and expensive) shopping spree to one of Bangkok’s many malls.
Thai men are notorios for their extramarital affairs. This is most common for the lower class guys. A lot of Thai girls share a similar story of falling in love at a young age with a hometown hero who then ditched her when he found out she was pregnant. Many end up in Bangkok sending money back and rarely see their child. This girl is very often looking for a decent, loyal foreigner who will be willing to settle down with her and support her and her child. In return, she is ready to be the best wife she can be; loyal, caring and dutiful. She is willing to overlook a substantial age difference as long as she thinks he will be true to her and stick with her for the long run. She is often found in bars, pubs and restaurants frequented by foreigners or on the internet on a dating site like ThaiLoveLinks or ThaiLoveLines. She isn’t going to jump into bed on the first date, but she will probably make a great girlfriend or wife.
Some Thai girls (many?) just think white guys are cute. She has grown up with MTV and David Beckham and now she has some sort of reverse yellow fever. She is often early to mid twenties with a good education and has maybe even studied abroad where she caught the taste for muscle bound westerners. This kind of girl is most often seen in trendy bars and caffes or in young, hip areas where foreigners hang out like Kao San area. Forget about getting with this girl if you’re an older guy (unless she also looks for a sugar daddy). Get her hooked by sporting the latest fashion, dancing, keeping the booze coming and partying it up. This is all physical.
I’ve found that most middle-class Thai women who date western guys almost always say that they enjoy dating them because they feel like they are respected more and have more freedom of expression. She is tired of dating Thai men who expect her just to be a pretty, cute wife void of any personality and opinion. She enjoys the chance to express herself and try new things without being judged in a rigid Thai society. She is looking for an educated, intelligent foreign man who will show her the world and bring her along with him as they explore life together. You meet her at a trendy café or bar, maybe in a hotel lobby or even on the internet, but she isn’t going to chase you. Impress her by showing your drive and ambition without bragging.
As you see, there are many reasons why a Thai girl would want to date a foreign guy and money is definitely not the only reason. So, if you want to meet a nice Thai girl, think about who you are and what kind of lady would be attracted to you. Are you the type happy to settle for a quiet countryside life or are you looking for a partner not only in bed but someone who can keep her own in a conversation. Do you want a string of flings with girls from Kao San clubs? Regardless, get out of the bars and gogos and start exploring the other side of Thailand.]]>